It's Over. Even though you may not have been prepared for it, wanted it, or hoped for it to turn out this way, it has. Now you have to accept being single and not having your significant other around when you were so used to seeing and talking to them. This can be one of the hardest things someone can go through, but thankfully it is not the end. Things will get better with time, but there are things you can do to make the process of getting over him/her easier.
Get Rid of Memory Triggers - Cleanse yourself. You have to let go of all the things you have around your house, in your phone, and even on your computer. You will never be able to get over him/her if everything around you is constantly reminding you of how things used to be.
Cut Off ALL Communication - This will be extremely difficult, however it will help a lot in the long run. Every time he/she pops in your head you feel like grabbing your phone and shooting them a text, call, or even an email, but you need to fight that urge. Talking to them is a huge block in getting over them. If you would like to be friends with an ex, wait until after you are over them.
Make a List of Reasons Why He/She Was Wrong for You - Remind yourself of all the negative things he/she did, or character traits they had that may have clashed with yours. Yes they may have been perfect in your eyes but reality is that no one is perfect. Make a list of the things that made them not the one.
Don't Expect Them to Come Back - As bad as you may want to get back with him/her, you CANNOT base your life decisions on the possibility of him/her coming back to you. You have to move on. Having false hopes will only cause you pain in the future.
Find Happiness in Other Areas of Your Life - What else pleases you? Make a list of all the hobbies, passions, and other things that drive you in life. You may notice that some of these activities have seemed to become forgotten about while you were in your relationship. Get back to them, do the things that make you happy that have nothing to do with love or relationships. You'll find yourself happier and more focused on you.
Write Your Feelings Down - Get a journal, the "notes" option on your phone, or even open a word document, write down everything you feel. Vent. Keep writing until you can't write anymore. The process of getting your thoughts out of your head and on to something tangible will relieve you so much.
Stay Active - Exercise improves your mood and alleviates depression, and the distraction will help keep your mind off your situation. Go for a run outside, visit/join a gym, or just go for a walk, maybe with a friend, and think of releasing the anger or sadness with every step.
Accept It - Don't hold on to anger or hatred. Remember the person as someone you loved, but someone it simply didn't work out with. You can congratulate yourself for being brave and taking a risk and falling in love and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.
Learn From It - Every relationship you have should be a learning experience. Think of that relationship as practice for your future love interest. Don't let the relationship be pointless, learn from it so you don't make the same mistakes you have made in the past.
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